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		<description><![CDATA[First off, it&#8217;s worth stating that this writer is indeed, herself, an American. I was born and bred here, and before you comment with death threats or anything you should be aware that I don&#8217;t hate the USA; so don&#8217;t even bother to assume that I do. In point of fact I love the potential [...]]]></description>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;"><img class="alignright size-thumbnail wp-image-354" title="Wrong" src="http://www.manicmeltdown.com/wp-content/uploads/Wrong-150x150.jpg" alt="Wrong" width="150" height="150" />First off, it&#8217;s worth stating that this writer is indeed, herself, an American. I was born and bred here, and before you comment with death threats or anything you should be aware that I don&#8217;t hate the USA; so don&#8217;t even bother to assume that I do. In point of fact I love the potential of this country, I love what it was intended to be, and I love what it could be. I love many of the people who are here and the work that they do and the way that they do it.</p>
<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">I am, however, heartbroken at the current state of this country on a number of levels; and for years I&#8217;ve been trying to think of what I might be able to do to be part of the solution rather than perpetuating the problem. (Don&#8217;t bother to suggest that I could “help” by killing myself – suicide is not a sane act&#8230; and Ms. Sanity is a lot of things but she&#8217;s not a complete idiot. I humbly suggest that this country needs <strong>more </strong>people who are not complete idiots, not fewer&#8230; but I digress.)</p>
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<p style="margin-bottom: 0in;">I have the good fortune (and the interesting experiences) of both living with and working with a number of people who are not Americans by birth; including my husband and the clients I work with who hail from all over the world. I have noticed recurring themes that my fellow &#8216;mericans seem to adamantly believe and or assume about this country and the world. The only problem is these strongly held beliefs are<strong> untrue.</strong> That doesn&#8217;t make them insane, of course; just wrong. With no further ado, time and again I find that American people believe:</p>
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<h4>1. The USA is the best, most 	desirable place in the world, and everyone in the world, if they had 	a choice, would want to live here.</h4>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong> </strong></span><em><strong>Absolutely</strong></em> untrue. 	Study after study, year after year, (not just recently) has shown 	that the happiest and most satisfied people in the world are NOT 	Americans. People in Sweden, Belgium, Canada, Australia, New 	Zealand, Switzerland and Norway are all reported to be much happier 	than Americans, and much more satisfied with their lives/their 	countries. One source for this statement is here: 	<a href="http://www.marketwatch.com/story/the-happiest-places-on-earth-are-heavily-taxed">http://www.marketwatch.com/story/the-happiest-places-on-earth-are-heavily-taxed</a> . There are many other sources that would underscore this point.</p>
<h4>2.When politicians and regular folk 	talk about “Protecting our American Way of Life” ™  they are 	referring to our “freedoms,” our ability to worship the way that 	we wish to do so, dress the way we wish to do so, and so on.</h4>
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</strong></span><em><strong>Nope.</strong></em> In general this is code-speak for “The continued ability of the US 	to use up 24% amount of the world&#8217;s energy, although we only have 5% 	of the world&#8217;s population.” It also means that we “want to be 	&#8216;free&#8217; enough to NOT pay enough taxes to have a sustainable 	infrastructure.” Note the link above; people in those “happy” 	countries actually pay more taxes than Americans do. “You get what 	you pay for” is a pretty inescapable truism. It also refers to 	paying low prices for goods and services- both domestically and 	abroad- which of course keeps American wages low – and this is 	done, intentionally or no, on the “backs” of people in poverty, 	both American and otherwise. See: 	<a href="http://www.mindfully.org/Sustainability/Americans-Consume-24percent.htm">http://www.mindfully.org/Sustainability/Americans-Consume-24percent.htm</a><br />
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<h4>3. America and Americans are the most 	giving people in the world – we help out other countries more so 	than any other country does.</h4>
<p><strong><em>Wrong in the first case, 	partially true in the second. </em></strong>From the American 	Governmental perspective, “Foreign Aid” is only about 1% of the 	federal budget (per Wikipedia – yes, I know that&#8217;s not the 	strongest source in the world, but I&#8217;ve seen that citation elsewhere 	as well.) To quote from 	<a href="http://www.globalissues.org/article/35/foreign-aid-development-assistance#ForeignAidNumbersinChartsandGraphs">http://www.globalissues.org/article/35/foreign-aid-development-assistance#ForeignAidNumbersinChartsandGraphs</a> (emphasis mine) “USA’s aid, in terms of percentage of their GNP 	<em><strong>has almost always been lower than any other industrialized 	nation in the world</strong></em>, though paradoxically since 2000, their 	dollar amount has been the highest.” The part that is <span style="text-decoration: underline;">partially</span> true, is that as individuals – not as a country- Americans are 	fairly generous. But not to the level of “more than any other 	country.” Again, quoting from the site above, “ Americans 	privately give at least $34 billion overseas—more than twice the 	US official foreign aid of $15 billion at that time.” (2002 	figures.) However, some argue that those figures aren&#8217;t even from 	Americans –  they say that these are remittances from foreign 	nationals living in the US.  Americans should feel proud of the help 	that is being given as individuals/small groups of people to others; 	but should not make the assumption that cutting out foreign aid as a 	country will help solve the country&#8217;s financial problems- (an 	assertion I have seen repeated over and over&#8230;) it&#8217;s a drop in the 	bucket that wouldn&#8217;t even pay one hour&#8217;s  interest on the national 	debt. For more on this topic see the link above, The US is rated 	<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>very</strong></span> far down on this list.</p>
<h4>4. America has the best health care 	system in the world. Anyone who needs care can go and get it at an 	emergency room, whether they have money or not.</h4>
<p><em><strong>This 	is such an absurdly incorrect idea as to be sickening.</strong></em><strong> </strong>No 	matter what measure you use, whether it is access to care, cost of 	care, patient outcomes, or any other – The USA is nowhere near the 	top. Yes, there is a federal law that if you show up at a hospital 	emergency room, and are in danger of losing your life, they have to 	treat you. However, if you chop your hand off with a chainsaw, and 	don&#8217;t have health insurance – they will stop the bleeding and keep 	you from dying, but if you think they&#8217;ll sew your hand back on, 	guess again. Some charity hospitals <strong>might</strong> but the cold 	reality is that most just plain will not. They are only federally 	required to keep you from dying. Period. Back to the original point 	re: “best” health care system,  to quote from the link below, 	“The U.S. ranks last when it comes to providing safe care, and 	next to last on coordinated care. U.S. patients with chronic 	conditions are the most likely to report being given the wrong 	medication or the wrong dose of their medication, and experiencing 	delays in being notified about an abnormal test result.”  See: 	<a href="http://7thspace.com/headlines/349077/health_system_performance_us_ranks_last_among_7_countries.html">http://7thspace.com/headlines/349077/health_system_performance_us_ranks_last_among_7_countries.html</a>. Per this report linked to from CNN 	below, <strong>about 60% of bankruptcies in the US are due to medical 	bills</strong>. How is that humane, sane, or the mark of a civilized 	country – much less the “best” system in the world? 	<a href="http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/06/05/bankruptcy.medical.bills/">http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/06/05/bankruptcy.medical.bills/</a> (hint: it isn&#8217;t) Anyone who truly believes we have the “best” 	system in the world here, cannot possibly be making frequent use of 	this so-called system. As a cancer survivor, who has had other 	ongoing medical issues her whole life, Ms. Sanity knows what she&#8217;s 	talking about. I am less than 45 years old, I have a college degree, 	I have been working full time for more than twenty years, and yet 	there have been several times in my life where I&#8217;ve had to make a 	choice between buying food and buying medicine. How is that 	reasonable? Or acceptable? Oh yeah, wait, it&#8217;s all MY fault. See 	#7.</p>
<h4>5.“The Government” (and/or 	Government employees/employment, and/or “bigger government”) is 	bad/useless, and private sector employees are always more 	useful/valuable/productive.</h4>
<p>Granted, the above position is 	generally taken by conservatives and libertarians, but there seems 	to be an underlying theme of this belief among many, many Americans.<em> <strong>The problem is that we can&#8217;t make useful or sensible or 	meaningful blanket statements like this.</strong> </em>Government is meant 	to be about more than just invading other countries in this day and 	age.  Ms. Sanity cannot however disagree with the point of view some 	people espouse that “The government can only ethically operate 	with the amount of money that the governed consent to give to the 	government.” That bit is true. However, Americans would do well to 	look at what they are currently “getting back” for their 	investment into government. The largest budget expenditure in the US 	is on the military. I&#8217;m not anti-military by any stretch of the 	imagination and I think that they should be paid well for what they 	do. But I also think we should question how or why in this day and 	age we need a military budget that is larger than the expenditures 	of <em><strong>the next forty  or so countries combined. </strong></em><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">Private 	sector employees and employers are not, in and of themselves, by 	their very nature, more virtuous or productive than government 	employees. The people screeching a la Norquist that we need to make 	the government so small we can drown it in a bathtub are deluded. 	Going back to frontier style society is not going to help anyone. 	Roads and bridges and schools don&#8217;t maintain themselves. What are 	you going to do? Make them all toll roads? Charge parents for all 	schools?</span></span>I have heard it said correctly that private sector 	employees in the US are generally paid with no rational regard to 	their usefulness to society. We cannot live for long without, say, 	the people who come and collect our trash. I can live <span style="font-style: normal;"><strong>eternally </strong></span><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">without 	the CEO of a health insurance organization, who will be paid say $60 	million dollars this year, vs. the trash guy who will be doing very 	well if he takes home about $48k (the national median income, give 	or take.) How is this sensible?</span></span></p>
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<h4><span style="color: #000000;"><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">6. The 	American people have the most civil (and other) rights, freedom and 	privacy on the planet.</span></span></span></h4>
<p>Not by a long shot. The Patriot Act, 	(which, I might remind you, is still in force) severely curtailed 	any privacy and long-held rights vested in the people; notably 	“Habeas Corpus” &#8211; which had been around since the Magna Carta – 	it basically means that the government can&#8217;t hold you indefinitely 	without actually charging you with a crime. Now they can. Some of 	the most appalling parts of the Patriot act were apparently fairly 	recently overturned/curtailed in court but not all of them. I can&#8217;t 	claim to understand it all (I am not a lawyer, after all.) It used 	to be if you were in trouble, the people charging you with something 	had to say what you were being charged with, and produce you in 	court.  This is no longer always the case, and it apparently applies 	to American citizens and to non-Americans alike. It is my 	understanding that the Patriot act also gave law enforcement 	agencies the right – without a warrant- to come into your home, 	search it, (sometimes referred to as a “sneak and peek,”) and 	they don&#8217;t even have to tell you that they did so! For more recent 	information, see this link: 	<a href="http://leahy.senate.gov/press/press_releases/release/?id=cc2a44b9-a0be-4bab-9de0-b7374d6a3485">http://leahy.senate.gov/press/press_releases/release/?id=cc2a44b9-a0be-4bab-9de0-b7374d6a3485</a> which includes a letter written by Senator Leahy that includes the 	fact that we now know that National Security Letters (a provision of 	the Patriot Act) were severely misused in recent years. Your 	internet activities,your telephone calls, your library books, all of 	these things can be monitored by the US Government even today should 	they want to do so.  In February of this year, under the Obama 	administration, the Patriot act was extended for another year. If 	you think this has nothing to do with you, or me, as law-abiding 	natural born citizens of the US, think again. See: 	<a href="http://www.aclu.org/blog/national-security/congress-drops-ball-upgrading-patriot-protections">http://www.aclu.org/blog/national-security/congress-drops-ball-upgrading-patriot-protections.</a> <span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">They 	can tap your phones, they can pretty much do whatever they want, if 	you become for some reason, a person of interest. Last comment on 	this topic: Workers in other countries, I&#8217;m thinking of the UK, 	specifically, have far more legal rights than they do here. If you 	get fired in the UK because you refuse to sleep with your boss, it&#8217;s 	my understanding that there is a nonpartisan, independent, watchdog 	tribunal  &#8211; which has actual power &#8211; which will hear your case, and 	you can end up getting your job back, financial remuneration, or 	both. In the US, in most states, you are imply out of a job – 	unless you have the money to sue.</span></span></p>
<h4><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">7.Liberals/Progressives 	and their leaders just want the government to take care of all of 	their needs, from the “cradle to the grave,” they don&#8217;t believe 	in personal responsibility, they expect the government to somehow 	magically make everything fair, and they want the population to be 	controlled by the government. That&#8217;s how it is in Europe, and that&#8217;s 	what the Liberals want here too.</span></span></h4>
<p>Ah, no. I do not, myself, 	want or expect the government to provide for my every need. I 	already know from experience (I did my first professional job at age 	9) the satisfaction that comes from working and working hard, I 	learned early that there is no such thing as a free lunch. I have 	known lots of well to do people and even more not very well to do 	people, and never once have I heard any of them say: I think the 	Government owes me a living, I wish there was a robin hood to steal 	from the rich so that I can sit around and do nothing. In Europe, 	which of course varies greatly country to country, there is simply a 	stronger commitment to the provision of a strong social safety net. 	Generally speaking, there seems to be a more compassionate view of 	each other than there seems to be (again, very broadly) here in the 	US. For some reason, in the USA,  if a person or a family falls on 	hard times, many people seem to take the attitude that “it&#8217;s your 	own fault&#8230; you didn&#8217;t work hard enough/plan enough, etc.” When 	of course, like it or not, hard times/disaster can happen to anyone, 	rich or poor, etc. I have heard with my own words the (oddly famous 	and listened to right-wing conservative blowhard) Rush Limbaugh say 	in these words: “look, folks, liberals don&#8217;t trust you individuals 	to do the right thing, that&#8217;s why they want to make all these laws 	to control you.” That has <span style="font-style: normal;"><strong>not </strong></span><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">been 	my experience in the very liberal and progressive circles I&#8217;ve been 	working in for more than a decade now. What “the libruls” do not 	trust, is that just because an organization is </span></span><em><strong>not 	the government</strong></em><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">, 	that it will be responsible or behave ethically or treat people well 	or even follow the law. There are far, far too many historical 	examples where corporations both large and small – took the little 	guys to the cleaners. Oh wait, Wall street Just did that&#8230; and you 	and I footed the bill, and will be doing so for generations. Do the 	“libruls “expect the government to prevent that sort of crap – 	whether it&#8217;s done by Wall Street, Enron, or the coal mining 	operation down the road? Yes, they sure do. And they are not wrong, 	to do that.</span></span> Life is not and never has been and can never be 	made “fair.” Anyone with one functioning brain cell is aware of 	that.</p>
<p><span style="font-style: normal;"><span style="font-weight: normal;">We had better learn to start talking to each other and to get serious about seeing clearly what has been happening in our society, and what, as a people, we wish to change. Yes, life is changing, life is always changing, and the United States that existed in 1955 is no more. We could perhaps  start by trying to be at least a little more compassionate toward our fellow Americans. I&#8217;ll try, for example, to not get so riled up and mind-bendingly furious at what I perceive from the Right-wing as being wrong wrong wrong and horrible. It&#8217;s a start. You? What the hell else can we be doing, at this very late stage in the game? </span></span><br />
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I know there are a bunch of other untrue things that my fellow Americans tend to believe. What are your top seven that aren&#8217;t on my list? </span></span></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Photo credit: taliesin from morguefile.com More and more frequently, I am seeing public, blatant, explicit statements and calls to action from my fellow Americans urging violence and war here at home. It&#8217;s easy to dismiss those as the statements of a few kooks when they are few and far between, but I am running across [...]]]></description>
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<p>More and more frequently, I am seeing public, blatant, explicit statements and calls to action from my fellow Americans urging violence and war here at home. It&#8217;s easy to dismiss those as the statements of a few kooks when they are few and far between, but I am running across them more and more frequently. And in far more “mainstream” places than you might expect; most recently, quite literally in the comments section of the <strong>Wall Street Journal.</strong> And I&#8217;m not just talking about one comment by one person, I&#8217;m talking about hundreds of comments, there and elsewhere, over a period of months.</p>
<p>These people are calling, quite literally, openly, and explicitly for civil war.</p>
<p>I am calling for people to get a grip and to think things through<strong> </strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong>very</strong></span> carefully.</p>
<p>There&#8217;s no denying that large portions of the American population are angry and frightened to an extent that has certainly not been seen in my nearly 42 years of existence. But calling for violence should be the absolute last resort. Ideally it should never, ever happen. But what it won&#8217;t be, even if it does happen, is glorious. It&#8217;s not possible to be romantic and glorious and wage war at the same time.</p>
<p>Leaving the issue of the morality of war aside, the fact of the matter is that any time there is civil war, innocent people – men, women, and children- are always hurt, always killed, maimed, and at the very least, traumatized and displaced. It is also very difficult in a society like the USA to identify precisely “who the enemies are.” For all of you who are calling for blood it&#8217;s a good idea to stop and take a look in the mirror, first, and to try to use your logical faculties. The fact of the matter is that we ALL created this culture which has led us to where we are. We have ALL contributed to thing being the way that they are. Most of us have made poor decisions, been apolitical or disinterested, and we have given ourselves the “leaders” which we deserve. We have voted with our pocketbooks, for example, to say that sports stars are more “important” than schoolteachers, we have allowed our infrastructure to crumble to the point that there are third world countries with better systems in place, all in the name of “we don&#8217;t want to pay taxes.” Let&#8217;s face it, nobody likes to pay taxes. But, the fact of the matter is – taxes are how we purchase civilization. (to steal from Judge Oliver Wendell Holmes.) <span id="more-322"></span></p>
<p>In the face of frustration, rage, sorrow, and fear, it can be very easy to feel that the only option is violence. I urge those feeling that way to stop and think again. There are always other options. The truth with a capital T is that there is no glory in war. There never has been. There never will be. That is not to disparage the service of soldiers, or to demean it in any way. And if you think that there is, I suggest that you spend some time examining some of the very excellent documentary and feature films which have been made on the subject, and see if your opinion still holds. For instance I would suggest <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000F48DCS?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=psychirevela-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=B000F48DCS">Stalingrad</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=psychirevela-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=B000F48DCS" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" />, the very excellent series about WWII,<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0002F6AH0?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=psychirevela-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=B0002F6AH0"> The World at War (30th Anniversary Edition)</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=psychirevela-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=B0002F6AH0" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /> and <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000ION22Q?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=psychirevela-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=B000ION22Q">Soldier Blue</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=psychirevela-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=B000ION22Q" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /><br />
, among many, many others.</p>
<p>There is no question that many things need to change here in the USA, the country where I was born, and the country where my family and most of the people I care deeply about live. These changes need to take place culturally, practically, and methodically in how we operate. I don&#8217;t begin to know the fullness of all of the changes needed or how they can come about. But beginning with violence is a recipe for disaster. Please, I pray you, think again. Then think some more. This is a time to get very, very specific about the changes we want to see and about who, precisely, is responsible for the situation that we find ourselves in. (There are many who would fall in this category.) “Shoot &#8216;em all and let God sort &#8216;em out,” is an ugly, reprehensible way of thinking. Surely we have evolved beyond that mentality&#8230;right?</p>
<p>We can change our society but what that will take is for the American people to work together, to stop with the polarization which prevents progress, and identifying some clear plans of action. Blowing things up and killing people is not a clear plan of action. It is simply terrorism. The last civil war in this country was an ugly, brutal time, that left thousands and thousands dead.</p>
<p>It is tempting to blame all of our problems on the “other,” to think it is all Wall Street&#8217;s fault, or the president&#8217;s fault, or what have you. There is no doubt that there was some criminal and unconscionable behavior along the way which led us to the grim situation our country finds ourselves in, however. Walt Kelly said it right, in 1970, however:</p>
<p>“We have met the enemy, and he is us.”</p>
<p>We absolutely must Learn from history, or we are doomed to repeat it. And the repeating of it will be even more painful than it was the first go-around.  If we come to civil war in this country, there will be no glory in it.  The tenor of the times seems to be a lot like a woman who wakes up one morning and decides that she doesn&#8217;t like what&#8217;s been happening in her home, and rather than talking to her family, trying to make a plan of how things can change, or considering what part she herself may have played &#8211; instead she sets fire to the place with everyone inside and walks away.</p>
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		<title>Of Mania and Manic Meltdowns</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Obviously this blog is called Manic Meltdown, and just as clearly to those who look around a bit, I rarely write about truly being manic. That’s largely because I rarely am manic, myself, I’m more of a unipolar depressive type myself, when my grip slips. (Yes, I know, that’s shocking to those of you who [...]]]></description>
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<p>Obviously this blog is called Manic Meltdown, and just as clearly to those who look around a bit, I rarely write about truly being manic. That’s largely because I rarely<strong><em> am </em></strong>manic, myself, I’m more of a unipolar depressive type myself, when my grip slips. (Yes, I know, that’s shocking to those of you who actually know Ms. Sanity…)</p>
<p>Anyway, manic depression (actually the proper term these days is “bipolar disorder,”) truthfully does run in my family along with a host of other ummmm… interesting mental proclivities. Accordingly, I thought it might be helpful to the casual observer or those of you who land here because you are looking for information on mania – for me to offer a bit of anecdotal information about what I know about mania and “real” manic meltdowns.</p>
<p>The best source of information of course is always a qualified medical or psychiatric practitioner, and<br />
nothing in this blog or anywhere else in the universe should be taken to be actual medical advice unless<br />
you’re under direct treatment. <span id="more-277"></span></p>
<p>To start with, of course, manic meltdowns aren’t pretty. But generally they are treatable, and there is help<br />
available to those who can and do seek it.</p>
<p>Mania generally is unpleasant for all concerned. A psychiatrist once told me, and I was surprised to hear,<br />
that “Mania is on a continuum; it’s not always physical mania of not sleeping and painting the whole house<br />
in three days… for example, extreme irritability in adults can be one symptom or a type of mania.”</p>
<p>So that’s an important thing to remember, when you’re looking at whether or not you or someone you care<br />
about might need help or treatment. It’s also important to remember that Mania/bipolar disorder is a<br />
complex disease, and it can be important to call in the cavalry (doctors!) as soon as one begins to realize<br />
there is a problem.</p>
<p style="padding-left: 120px;">Symptoms of mania (courtesy of Web MD) can include:<br />
•	excessive happiness,<br />
•	excitement,<br />
•	irritability,<br />
•	restlessness,<br />
•	increased energy,<br />
•	less need for sleep,<br />
•	racing thoughts,<br />
•	high sex drive,<br />
•	and a tendency to make grand and unattainable plans.</p>
<p>That doesn’t necessarily sound as awful as it is. Other reported experiences and behaviors of those in a full<br />
blown “manic meltdown,” can include spending money recklessly, indiscriminate sexual behavior (which is<br />
later regretted) crying jags, and particularly after several days with insufficient sleep, literal hallucinations<br />
and/or psychoses.</p>
<p>Most people experience the milder end of these symptoms, from what I understand, and someone doesn’t<br />
have to have them all in order to actually be experiencing mania.</p>
<p>Drug abuse (and Ms. Sanity doesn’t judge people, I’m just pointing this out…) can make bipolar disorder<br />
worse and/or can mask the symptoms and make diagnosis more difficult depending on the situation.</p>
<p>If you’re looking to understand more about manic meltdowns and are new to the mental illness party (we really need to get rid of the stigma about it in the good ole USA, people with chemical imbalances- who are not “just jerks,” can no more pull themselves out of it &#8220;by their bootstraps&#8221; than a six week-old infant can start speaking in sentences because of superior willpower. Bipolar disorder- and in fact most, if not all, forms of true mental illness &#8211; are biochemical, physical issues&#8230;) …you may want to have a look at <a href="http://www.webmd.com/bipolar-disorder/guide/understanding-bipolar-disorder-symptoms ">this link for more clinical and authoritative info</a>.</p>
<p>The life you save may be your own, or that of someone you care about. People with bipolar disorder have a<br />
much higher rate of suicide and/or accidental death than the general population, I have been told.  It is important to know that most people with bipolar disorder will insist that “there is nothing wrong,” particularly in manic phases. If in doubt, check it out!</p>
<p>Just because I’ve called this blog Manic Meltdown in no way aims to minimize the serious issue of Mania and bipolar disorder. It’s more that I was pointing to the fact that many aspects of modern life tend to POINT your Ms. Sanity toward the ugly side of manic behavior, because of occasional frustration and so on; and I wanted to share some of the thoughts, ideas, and resources that help me from ending up going over the edge, in the hopes that they may help someone else.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m no expert, of course, but are there any questions?</p>
<p>Oh yeah, one last thing. Someone landed on the first iteration of this blog (at Blogspot) recently because they had searched for “how to know if you are self centered.” That question is fairly easy. First of all, nearly all of us are self-centered to a degree, and that’s not a crime, necessarily. It can often be healthy and self preserving, provided we don’t carry it too far. Secondly, are you able to understand how other people feel? Are you able to imagine and empathize/sympathize when they are having difficulties? Do you care about what happens to others? Do you sometimes think of others and put them and their needs before your own? If so… you probably don’t have a darn thing to worry about. But if everyone you ask tells you that yes, you come across as being self-centered, then perhaps you should talk to someone you trust about it, preferably your doctor. This too can be a symptom of a variety of mental health challenges. It’s very normal for people who are struggling with depression, for example, to be focused on themselves and their own feelings, etc., just as it is normal for someone with a broken leg to be focused (especially at first) on the pain from their leg and how their leg is feeling—because it HURTS! The problems come when the leg—or the feelings—are the thing one lives the rest of one’s life being focused on. Never hesitate to reach out for help.</p>
<p>And if you don’t like the first “help” you get, keep reaching. There is always help, and almost always hope. The thing is, we have to do some reaching out to find it.</p>
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		<dc:creator>Ms. Sanity</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Part of my work involves serving as a sort of lay counselor for some of my clients. One of the things I have noticed time and again is people, particularly women, driving themselves utterly insane, trying to figure out the &#8220;rules&#8221; in life and what is &#8220;really&#8221; the case about a certain situation.  (In fact, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Part of my work involves serving as a sort of lay counselor for some of my clients. One of the things I have noticed time and again is people, particularly women, driving themselves utterly insane, trying to figure out the &#8220;rules&#8221; in life and what is &#8220;really&#8221; the case about a certain situation.  (In fact, for that matter, I was once one of those people.)</p>
<p>If that rings any bells for you about yourself, there&#8217;s a short primer on the flip which may be helpful. <span id="more-131"></span></p>
<p>Over and over when I have my &#8220;counselor&#8221; hat on, people ask me questions like, &#8220;But is what happened to me A or B?&#8221; &#8220;Is it <em><strong>wrong</strong></em> for me to feel C or D?&#8221;  &#8220;Was that person <em><strong>wrong</strong></em> to do E or F?&#8221;  &#8220;Do I <em><strong>really</strong></em> have any redeeming value? What if I&#8217;m wrong about what I think?&#8221; and on and on it goes.</p>
<p>In my own life, partly through the process of going through therapy (something which I think nearly everyone can benefit from, if you can find a good therapist&#8230;) I eventually learned that&#8211;guess what&#8211;there is  not REALLY a fully-fledged rule book about life sitting somewhere that you can just look up and see a black and white answer that makes everything clear about A, B, C, D and so forth. (Spare me the Bible references, that&#8217;s not quite what I mean, although there are some enormously helpful rules and such to live by in the Bible&#8230;.)</p>
<p><strong>There came a point when I had to allow myself to live with some uncertainty, and once I did&#8211;whoosh, a huge burden was lifted. </strong></p>
<p>Finally, in a blinding flash, I realized that my role was to do my best to make a sensible decision about what I thought about my life, and my actions, and so on, and that looking outside for some sort of handy manual that was going to spell absolutely everything out for me, was fruitless at best.</p>
<p>Some people are great  (okay, some people are delusional, too) about having positive self esteem, seeing their strengths, and so on. It comes easily and naturally to them. Those people are probably not even reading this article.</p>
<p>At the other end of the spectrum, we have the folks with the absolute lowest self-esteem, and paralyzing anxiety. &#8220;Am I <em><strong>really</strong></em> a bad person?&#8221; and so on are the kinds of questions that plague them constantly.  Here&#8217;s the deal:</p>
<p>Sometimes, for the latter type of person, you have to simply stop asking yourself and the world for the &#8220;truth&#8221; about a particular thing, and simply decide what is and is not helpful for you to think. Is it helpful, to you, or anyone else around you, for you to torture yourself endlessly that you &#8220;might&#8221; be a bad person, or a worthless person, and so on?</p>
<p>No, of course it isn&#8217;t. It is far helpful for your functioning, and for the world, if you make the decision to think &#8220;Perhaps I am an okay, at least, person.&#8221;  That gives you a launching pad to start from, whereas &#8220;Maybe I am <em>really</em> bad,&#8221; does not. (I&#8217;m referring to &#8220;normal&#8221; people here, not people, say, who killed someone last week, etc., who have plenty of reason to question themselves.)</p>
<p>You can, of course, tie yourself up in knots if you want, asking yourself  &#8220;Well, is it for <em>real, </em>do I have any basis to have even moderate self-esteem about?&#8221; but the fact of the matter is that sometimes you, and everyone else, are better off if you just make some (positive) assumptions.  So when it comes to the basics&#8211;like simple self esteem/self respect, you are better off, when your mental tape says &#8220;Is it real? should I allow myself to have even marginal self-esteem?&#8221; to respond with a resounding <strong>&#8220;Who cares if it&#8217;s &#8220;real&#8221; or not. That is where I&#8217;m going to begin, assuming that I have the right to draw breath, etc.&#8221;</strong></p>
<p>For the record, I am very quick to suggest that people see a doctor and/or a licensed professional counselor (plus, of course, the law requires me to do so,and of course, that&#8217;s just the ethical thing to do.) I do realize that the type of mental machinations I&#8217;m describing CAN be due to major clinical depression and/or anxiety, and often need treatment from professionals.</p>
<p>The other fact of the matter, however, is that seeking or receiving mental health treatment is still stigmatized to an unbelievable degree (and it shouldn&#8217;t be) and that in the US, mental health care is simply not available (or <em><strong>seems </strong></em>unavailable&#8211;almost the same thing)  to many, many people. So I suppose talking to me can be better than nothing. At least that&#8217;s what they tell me.</p>
<p>My points here are threefold: a.) most people <em><strong>do</strong></em> have the power to do at least a little something about the damage those mental tapes are doing to themselves, b.) sometimes saying &#8220;who cares?!&#8221; is actually a very adult, reasoned, practical mental response, and c.) if your life feels like the pits because you can&#8217;t get past this stuff, reach out and get help, pronto.  There is ALWAYS help available, and we are<span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong> not</strong></em></span> called to &#8220;go it on our own&#8221; forever.</p>
<p>If you struggle with this crap, try saying &#8220;who cares?!&#8221; for an hour. See how YOU feel.You might be surprised how freeing it is.</p>
<p>And for the (Ayn) Randians: Yes, of course there are absolutes in life. There just aren&#8217;t quite as many as most people seem to think. Life is full of shades of gray. Deal with it.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[A newly found (and newly admired) fellow blogger really sparked my imagination today. His name is Rajesh Setty and his blog is Life Beyond Code. In it, among many other useful thoughts and ideas, I came upon his exhortation that we should all  &#8220;Increase our capacity to help other people increase THEIR capacities.&#8221;  In other [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A newly found (and newly admired) fellow blogger really sparked my imagination today. His name is Rajesh Setty and his blog is <a title="Life Beyond Code" href="http://www.lifebeyondcode.com/" target="_blank">Life Beyond Code. </a></p>
<p>In it, among many other useful thoughts and ideas, I came upon his exhortation that we should all  &#8220;Increase our capacity to help other people increase THEIR capacities.&#8221;  In other words&#8211;to get better at helping others, well, get better (presumably better at whatever it is that they want to be better AT.) <span id="more-84"></span></p>
<p>Now I am not egotistical enough to think for one second that I can help everyone with everything. For instance if you want to get better at math, you are barking up the wrong blog, I&#8217;m a verbal girl if there ever was one.</p>
<p>I suppose the premise for this blog<em> in toto </em>was to hopefully gently point out some parts of modern life which are insane, and steer the reader to more, well, sane points of view/actions/thinking/tactics.</p>
<p>But I&#8217;d really like to know&#8230; what are the things that the readers around here would like to get better at? Do you want to know more about social media or blogging? Or how to not go insane when you&#8217;re worried about money? Or how to spot absolute insanity in a  prospective romantic partner?</p>
<p>Do tell. And I&#8217;ll do my best to help. I may not know the answers, but I am great at finding people who do!</p>
<p>It seems to me that if even a tenth of our culture became fixated on at least occasionally &#8220;increasing their capacity to help others increase their capacities&#8221; our country and world would be MUCH stronger, as a result.</p>
<p>What say you?</p>
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